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Reality Check: When Life Differs From Emotional Expectations


Should we really have no expectation? Is it practically possible? Is it right?

As individuals from the time we are born, we see a variety of people putting in their effort to take care of us out of shear love💌. This is their voluntary service. This voluntary service seeps into us as a necessity and we start expecting it to happen always… This expectation does not leave “the choice” of doing to the person; that is where their beautiful gestures create a negative aura. Instead of our expectation if we evolve and manage our emotion to “permit them” to choose to do for us, it remains beautiful.

Well, in the same way when we do for others and they do not leave the choice to us, they start expecting. They also should manage their emotions and leave the choice to us , thus putting an end to the cycle of expectation.

As life moves ahead, we start building unintentional expectation from our loved ones, but they are as we grow up considered it self less acts but as emotional beings its very difficult to not have an expectations.

If we do something out of love, we really feel nice when appreciated about it and then due to our unknown conditioning we expect something in return, even a small act of kindness or respect over it or any other gesture, even if it is not immediate our monkey mind creates a scenario to fulfil it for us which leads to further unending expectations.

When that expectation or reaction does not go as out thought , that's when the problem starts, we start to feel hurt💔, followed by anger and a grudge and resentment seeps in. Is it really our fault over here? Or should we learn to manage the disappointments after knowing the nature of the other person , knowing that change is difficult. 

We instead as emotional beings should jot the reactions which we expect and manage our emotions around it and learn to evolve from that and know if this situation is disappointing us… 

Isn’t it more of emotional management than expectation management?? 

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