Fear Of Being Unheard

Communication Gap

I am sure everyone would agree✅✅ with me, that communication is the base of any relationship, be it in personal life or at work front. The better we can put our words and thoughts forward, the job is half done there.

The difference in the wavelength〜 is the vacuum created in the middle, while the words are unheard and words spoken by both the parties fall in the vacuum and continue to churn because you are not on the same wavelength of the conversation is what I think.

From the vacuum, if and when the wavelength matches it reaches the other person, but if reaches you late, you have to put in that effort to bridge the gap, to let the wavelength match and have a fruitful conversation.

But many a times the question is...
Are we heard ?
Do people listen to us? 
Are we able to convey our thoughts? 
Are people able to receive our thoughts? 

I feel a communication gap is created when there is lack of clarity in our speech, lack of perspectives in our minds, stress in our thoughts, assumptions made by people because of their preconceived notions and emotional barriers unattended to.

Recently, there was a conversation between my friend and me, where she sharing what was happening at her house, with respect to her future, career and finances. The friend of mine is into marketing and doing a job currently, but she could envision no potential growth in her existing company and she had enough experience to start as a freelancer. here due to unreal self doubts and unnecessary fears she was not able to foresee it. On the other hand, her father, who was concerned for her career and could see the potential in her was trying to push her for taking higher risk by becoming a freelancer.

Her father asked her what are you thinking ahead with respect to your career. She told him , “I need more time to figure out , about how to go ahead with it as I feel lack of experience.”  
Her father asked, “Are you going to do a job? Or take a new direction in your career by starting as a free lancer.” She kept on telling him she needed time to think, the father kept on asking the same thing and that moment she was feeling like she was talking but wasn’t being heard by her father, she felt some sort of vacuum between her father and her words, and the thought process and creation of a situation of continuously being unheard. This is Communication Gap!!

She was talking but was she Being Heard? or Was she listening to her Father while he was talking?

“ARE“ the others listening 👂👂to us intently , with a 360 perspective, or we are unintentionally put in a cycle of feeling unheard. Small issues can lead to big conflicts due to lack of been able to reach out to each other.

Whereas the solutions are simple if we try to think about , it’s at times just being an empathetic listener, showing genuine concern and we can even slow down the communication so that we can overcome the gap while we are speaking to be more heard..